Volume 91, Issue 39

Thursday, November 6, 1997

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LETTERS
 

The closet is for your clothes, sugar

Re: Gay pride

To the Editor:
Awaken all gays, lesbians and bisexuals, for in this century we have accomplished the most so far and still have an unfinished agenda. Let us no longer be suppressed by a society that is tickled with fascination by us and reduces their perception of us to that of, 'a little less than human.'

There are so many gays, lesbians and bisexuals who are putting up a front because they feel alone and think they are one in a million in this situation. This is not true. There are many more. Why then, has this not moved society to take a positive active role and bring things to a head?

I know what it's like to feel alone, to be holding back, telling no one, not even friends and family and having to laugh at the gay jokes and crack a few too. I didn't want to be the topic of discussion for people to pick me apart. Once you tell them, then there is no more secret, nothing to speculate about and nothing to discuss. Yes, I once feared being exposed to a society that knows what "I do," but now I just say, "I know what YOU do too." How can we try to measure these 'sins' and say one is more justifiable than the other? So here I am with tears in my eyes because my brothers and sisters all over the world are being reprimanded and scorned for saying three simple words, "I am gay." My own 'gaydar' works overtime because I am trying to find someone who will understand and love me. We all want the same thing. People are people! You know what I mean? As it is so well put in the words of Mark Myrie:

"I wanna be loved, not for who you think I am nor what you want me to be, could you love me for me? Real love with no strings attached. I wanna give you my heart, [I] don't want to take it back."

Why should we have to accommodate society at our own irreparable expense? Why can't society embrace its brothers and sisters? What difference does it make who we have sex with? None at all! We will continue to force this in the face of the rest of the world until the penny drops.

Gays, lesbians and bisexuals are fun, beautiful, intelligent human beings who deserve to live as freely as the next person. The young ones are so bright-eyed and effervescent and they overflow with energy and intention to do well, and well they will do, because they have brilliant futures ahead of them regardless of whosoever tries to incumber their precious souls from fulfilling their dreams. We are not some kind of sick people who think about sex 24-hours a day! (as much as that thought appeals to me).

Why does the Church continue to condemn us and in so doing, making those of us who once turned to God for strength and forgiveness, now feel unworthy?! Indeed their neglecting us is an ungodly act in itself, after all, we are ALL God's children. It has made so many lose faith. Who wants to sit in church and punish themselves by being told that they are wrong and go against God's word? When God says "If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone..." [John 8:7] I just say, "Hey I'm gay and God still loves me anyway."

Let us discard our inhibitions and explore new opportunities. Open those 'closets' and let those beautiful people extend their limbs and exercise their sexuality. Come out of the darkness and into the light. Do not deny yourselves the satisfaction that life has to offer. Satisfy your emotions and release your burdens. Reach out to other brothers and sisters, show them love and understanding, help cast away their fears, together let us help each other. The reward will be immeasurable.

I leave you with the words of Mark Myrie: "If we do wrong, they complain, even if we call the father's name it's the same. What [do] they want us to do? Don't they know this is nothing new? Why won't they do what they want and let me do my thing? They should be thankful there's light of hope still shining."

And remember, the 'closet' is for your clothes, sugar.

Sara Archer
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