Volume 92, Issue 91

Friday, March 19, 1999


Question political education promises

Don't judge based on appearances

Fight racism

Money can't buy happiness

New views on old book

Even O.J. has rights and freedoms

Ireland's flag?

Find the inner elephant

Find the inner elephant

By Paul-Mark Rendon
Gazette Staff

It's happened to all of us. At some point in time, somewhere you least expected it, or least cared for that matter, you got caught in a situation where you forgot somebody's name.

And if you're lucky enough, the person whose name you forgot is standing right in front of you, trying to engage in conversation. You skillfully dance around the dangers of maybe blurting out the wrong name and take every opportunity to curtail the conversation, saying your goodbye with a generic "later man" or "take it easy buddy."

For the next few moments, you peruse the dusty files of your brain, trying to recall their name, perhaps spending more time if you found them attractive, wanting that evening's erotic dream to be as accurate as possible.

Everyone does not have a set of mega-memory tapes at home. The majority of people, myself included, have yet to tap into the giant within so as to release their inner elephants, but I don't think remembering someone's name is too much to ask.

I myself have been caught off guard – I'll be the first to admit that, but in my defence, I never let it happen with the same person twice. Of course you can't remember someone's name if you didn't introduce yourselves in the first place, but this is just more incentive to get to know him or her better the second time you meet.

It's been scientifically proven that the sweetest sound to any person's ears is the sound of their own name. Saying someone's name is the best way to get that particular person's undivided attention. So, it pays to remember the names of people you meet. Besides, getting caught in the name grasping situation, while being lame, reflects poorly on the person who didn't remember.

On the other hand, remembering someone's name and greeting them by using it makes a subtle, yet indelible impression and says you were listening in the first place. A good memory is an invaluable asset. One way to play it like you at least have a decent one is by remembering names, no matter how important you perceive the person to be in the course of your daily routine.

For people who plead their frenetic schedules as a case for not remembering, this tells the world you're running out of space in your mental hard drive and unless you upgrade, you'll become obsolete. It's time to take the good memory stigma away from pretentious keeners and office-dwelling brown-nosers and give it back to the people. If the world is truly becoming a smaller place, let's at least make it cozy.

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