Pick up on the bar trends
Although the clock to Valentine's Day is ticking down, please, for the sake of your own sanity and the sanity of others, do not feel obligated to pick someone up at a bar simply for the sake of picking up.
Valentine's Day is yet another reminder of the pressures every university student faces during their search for happiness, truth and the pursuit of someone to hook up with. Faced with the prospect of almost certain spinsterhood, many university students turn to the bar scene in order to track down a potential mate. Be warned, if you're looking to find your future husband/wife on the dance floor at a bar, you may be sadly disappointed.
Bars have been a part of university culture since beer became available in kegs. It's a ritual for university students, especially first-years, to trudge out to the local clubs and shake their groove thangs. It's almost like a right of passage. However, you can't help but wonder about those students who are not comfortable with the traditional format of, get hammered, get courage and hope for the best.
Students not interested in the typical bar "pickup" scene can take solace in the fact that there are many alternatives to finding a potential suitor.
Why not cruise down to your local library or an art gallery; perhaps your brooding, sensitive appreciation of poetry and art may win over someone's heart. And besides, 20 years down the road when your little ones ask you how you met your one true love, what is the likelihood of you saying, "Daddy started grinding with me on the dance floor and the rest is history."
For those of you still determined to truck down to the local gin-joint for a few drinks, it's important to remember that most of the people who are there are not looking for much more than a one-night stand. Try to avoid staring at the phone the evening after a night out at the bar waiting for "Dr. Tongue" to call. Chances are, whatever is going to happen between you has already taken place. That's why it is important to remember that bar hook-ups are just that bar hook-ups. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having a little fun with someone at a bar, but, as with anything in life, unrealistic expectations often lead to disappointment.
However, if you are looking for that "special someone," you shouldn't entirely rule out the bar scene. Just try and limit yourself to places where you can actually hear what the other person is saying to you, rather than interpreting his or her crotch gyrations as a sign that it's meant to be.
There is a huge distinction to draw between sitting down to a pint with someone at a local pub and passing the next three hours by with awe-inspiring conversation, and "feeling a little poke coming through" on the dance floor.
For your own sake, learn the difference and embrace it.