Singles need lovin’ too
By Dallas Curow
SURE YOU PUT A JACKET ON BECAUSE IT’S COLD OUTSIDE.
At least that’s what Mom says, but what would she
say about sunscreen?
Celibacy — it ain’t just for priests anymore.
In contrast to the more racy topics within this sex-themed
issue, I would like to explore a subject of the exact opposite:
celibacy. I suppose people opt for celibacy, for many reasons.
For instance, many choose to abstain from sex until their
wedding night. But we cannot forget the kind of celibacy as
seen in the film 40 Days and 40 Nights, in which the main character
gives up sex for Lent. The character swears it off both for
a bet and as a means of defeating his sexual addiction.
If the need for sex rules a person’s life completely,
consuming their every thought and motivating their every action,
perhaps they have a serious problem.
But is going cold-turkey any better? Assuming no religious
obligations bar a person from partaking in the pleasures of
the flesh, sex can be a healthy thing.
So is it then unhealthy to live intentionally sans sex? What
about on an experimental basis: taking a vow of celibacy for
a certain period of time, for the purpose of observing how
abstinence changes the dynamics of one’s life?
If a person sets out to excel academically and rack up a list
of accomplishments, it is easier to do so without having sex
as a distraction. Alternatively, a little lovin’ on the
side may provide a nicely balanced lifestyle.
I took these questions to GTs and conversed with a cross-section
of clientele. When I asked if they would be willing to take
a vow of celibacy, I received a variety of answers. One guy
laughed sheepishly and told me that he wasn’t having
much luck in the action department, so why not take a vow and
make it seem like it was a choice. Another girl scoffed haughtily
while gyrating her hips and said she would never give up her
So would a vow of celibacy do anyone any good? Will its virtues
lead to a sense of personal satisfaction, and greater enlightenment?
Or, by abstaining are you really just screwing yourself?