Q&A with sex guru Dr. Guy Grenier

Tuesday, April 7th, 2009

Two women in their underwear

Jon Purdy

Western professor Guy Grenier

Western professor Guy Grenier answers all!

“Is it true that females enjoy sex more than males but hide it?”
"Zen Mariani, Physics II

Guy Grenier: Nope. Females enjoy sex exactly as much as males do. The “traditional sexual script” says men are supposed to be sexually aggressive, sexually knowledgeable... pushing sexual boundaries. The same set of rules says that women aren’t supposed to be sexually interested and are supposed to be sexually naive and sexually resistant. These are the traditional ideas that get handed down to us about gender differences on sexuality. The research shows while people may believe [the traditional sex script] and may act on it, there’s no biological truth to it.

“Do women have a universal G-spot?”
"Taylor Battista, Chemistry II

GG: No. There is no demonstrated validity to any sort of special tissue on the upper wall of the vagina. There isn’t a place with more nerve endings or different tissues. There is a difference in the thickness in that upper vaginal wall. For women who have the right kind of thickness, stimulation of that upper wall will end up stimulating their ureter and other structures, and that can provide a different kind of stimulation " an intense kind of stimulation. Initially it makes you feel like you need to pee, but once you get past that, it can turn into very powerful orgasms that are often accompanied by what we call “female ejaculate.” It’s like saying “are large or small breasts universal?” No.

“What’s the best way to get rid of genital warts?”
"Brett Carroll, English and History II

GG: Not to get them. The best thing is to have our daughters all immunized against them " if that ship has sailed the next thing is not to engage in sexual behaviour. If that ship has sailed, always engage in protected sexual behaviour. If that ship has sailed and you have genital warts, you should talk to your physician. Sometimes they will use freezing, acid, or surgery [to treat genital warts.]

“What is HPV and why are we hearing about it so much recently?”
"Stephanie Howe, Political Science IV

GG: HPV is human papilloma virus, which causes genital warts and can lead to cervical cancer. It’s one of the most common Sexually Transmitted Infections. It used to be people just talked about gonorrhea and syphilis, but those are less common now than HPV and chlamydia.

“Is sexuality fluid? Can a person be bisexual for a long time, become gay later, and then go back?”
"Meghan Adams, English II

GG: Absolutely. There are some theorists that will contend we’re all bisexual and it’s just a function of experience and conditioning that shapes our interest in one sex, the other sex or both sexes. I don’t personally believe that, but it’s an interesting theory. I think people’s sexual appetites can change. Bisexuality is a profoundly understudied area and tends to emerge much later than a homosexual orientation. It takes someone longer to recognize bisexuality as a viable way to be because there’s some hostility associated with it " some people in the gay community say bisexual people are gay people who can’t commit.

“How do you deal with a sex toy mishap?”
"Pedro Lopes, USC VP-campus issues

GG: Ideally, if you’re going to put things in your anus, you make sure there’s a string attached so they can be removed if you lose contact with it. Same deal with the vagina, although it’s less common [to have something stuck there]. Worst-case scenario, you’re going to have to go to the hospital and someone with forceps and a speculum will have to retrieve it. Ideally, everything is tethered.

“How can we better promote safe sex on campus?”
"Chris Reynolds, Political Science IV

GG: By talking about it, by learning about it and by getting comfortable with it. Human sexuality should be the only mandatory class on campus. We didn’t make it mandatory in Grade 1, Grade 2 and all the way to Grade 12. Sexually Transmitted Infections, sexual discomfort, anxiety " these are almost entirely preventable issues if we simply as a society decide to take sex education seriously. We know that when people know more about sex they engage in safer sex.

“What is the most common misconception about sex?”
"Tom Stevenson, Statistics and Actuarial Sciences V

GG: That there is a magic sexual technique " a particular oral sex technique that can drive men insane or a technique that will make every woman crumble and go weak at the knees. It’s both our greatest hope and our greatest fear: we hope that it’s there and we can learn it at some point and we’re terrified it’s out there and we don’t know. We need to recognize that if we want to be good at sex, we need to explore a range of sexual behaviours and we need to be talking to our partners.

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